neurodiverse couples therapy & coaching
When one or both partners in a relationship is neurodivergent, it can be difficult to resolve conflict, cohabitate, co-parent, and communicate effectively.
At Spectrum Services, our couples therapists and coaches are here to help you navigate your unique relationships.
Many clients come to us having already tried couples counseling, often reporting that it has been ineffective, and sometimes even made matters worse.
The key difference when working with a trained neurodiverse couples therapist or coach is that we understand that therapy must be catered to your and your partners neurotypes; we will work with you to help you finally feel understood and supported both in the therapeutic setting and in your relationships.
Understanding neurodivergence goes a long way in helping couples align and see themselves as a team working against the hurdle of missed cues and attunement, rather than against each other.
It takes a lot of courage to seek help. We applaud you for being here and for taking this next step forward.
WHAT CHALLENGES MIGHT NEURODIVERSE COUPLES HAVE?
- Lack of shared perspective with one another
- Poor emotional reciprocity (attunement)
- Inaccurate theorizing of how one another feels or thinks
- Inequitable division of household & parenting responsibilities
- Sensory challenges that impact physical affection, sexual intimacy, meal times, sleeping arrangements, travel, parenting, socializing, and other day to day activities
- Circular conversations with inflexible positions
- Hyposexuality or hypersexuality
- Opposing views of satisfaction within the relationship
- Emotional dysregulation
- Poor impulse control, inattentiveness, and lack of focus or hyperfocus
- Differing prioritization of relationships, hobbies, sleep, and work
- Poor planning, time management, and recalling of agreed-upon obligations
- Communication avoidance or perseveration on topics
- Incongruent words and actions in regard to values
- Emphasizing intention over impact of behavior
- Difficulty generalizing behavior expectations in varying scenarios
WHY SHOULD I CONSIDER NEURODIVERSE COUPLES WORK?
- Traditional therapy and/or couples therapy has not been helpful
- You and/or your partner have been formally diagnosed or self-diagnosed with a unique neurotype
- You suspect that your or your partner’s neurodiversity might be playing a meaningful role in your difficulty
- You need help reducing stress and conflict at home
- You need support with parenting and/or maintaining your household
- You need help with productive communication and conflict resolution in your relationship
PODCASTS
Click the links below to listen to Dr. Rahimeh Andalibian discuss:
Neurodiverse Love: Increasing Understanding, One Conversation At A Time
"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."