LCSW, Therapist (Spectrum & Trauma)

Rebecca Lanier

LMFT, Therapist (Spectrum)

Rebecca Lanier, LMFT-QS, Ed.S., M.Ed. is a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York and Florida. Rebecca is also a Certified Gottman Therapist and AANE Certified Neurodiverse Couples Therapist.

Rebecca’s specialty when working with individuals is working one-on-one with partners who are in a neurodiverse relationship. Whether married, in a committed partnership, newly dating, recently separated or divorced, single, or struggling with a family, friend, or work relationship, Rebecca’s training and expertise in systems theory and relational dynamics will provide you with a clear understanding of your dilemma and how best to proceed.

Rebecca’s approach to individual therapy considers things such as how childhood, family dynamics, personality, significant life events, and attachment influence each client. Rebecca also believes that individual therapy is meant to give people the tools to create healthy, generative, lasting relationships – ones where everyone involved gets to be fully themselves. This means holding up the mirror and exploring things like: The kind of life you want to build with your partner, the kind of partner you aspire to be in order to build the kind of life and relationship you desire, your individual blocks to becoming the kind of partner you aspire to be, and the skills and knowledge necessary to create new, intimacy-building patterns in your relationship.

As a collaborative couples therapist, Rebecca encourages clients to take part in the treatment planning discussion and prioritize which issues and skills to address first. She will help you recognize and understand the role Neurodiversity plays in your relationship and how to utilize specific skills to help you build the relationship you want. Rebecca will also help prepare you for long-term success by focusing on essential relationship skills like: communication, emotional regulation, conflict management, and shared understanding and meaning.

In working with Rebecca, she will help you identify which patterns and loops you’re repeating so that you can stop being stuck and instead move toward relational synergy. After all, meaningful relationships are where all the pieces come together, where the work you’ve done in yourself comes full circle and becomes the connection you enjoy with those people in your life who matter the most.


Neurodiverse individuals and couples

Neurotypical partners of neurodivergent individuals

Blended families


Interpersonal dynamics

Healthy Boundaries

Effective communication







Gottman Method of Couples Therapy

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)




“The impulse to heal is real and powerful and lies within the client. Our job is to evoke that healing power… and support it in its expression and development. We are not the healers. We are the context in which healing is inspired.”
- Ron Kurtz


“Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness...Trauma is about loss of connection—to ourselves, our bodies, our families, to others, and to the world around us. This disconnection is often hard to recognize because it doesn't happen all at once but rather over time.”
- Peter Levine