Abby’s experience with autism spans over two decades, encompassing a variety of settings, contexts and age groups. Her expertise with neurodiverse couples is bolstered by her history within the field of autism. Abby has worked in education, behavioral solutions, and home-based intervention. Abby’s proficiency with neurodiverse couples is uniquely developed, due in part to her personal familiarity with neurodiverse marriage, along with extensive client experience. Abby is a mother to autistic children, each of whom has additional neurodivergent conditions. Parenting in this capacity has provided Abby an additional depth for conceptualizing the nuanced dynamics of neurodiverse marriage, and family life.
Abby approaches coaching from a direct, supportive, educational, and problem-solving perspective. She utilizes a collaborative approach with clients, helping to identify challenges, build skills, and implement strategies. Abby is practical, perceptive, encouraging, and straightforward. Viewing herself as merely a facilitator of information, insight, and instruction, Abby fully credits the client’s hard work and dedication as the force of sustainable change.
Common topics for couples in coaching include: education on neurotype differences; developing perspective-taking; effective communication strategies; conflict resolution; apologies and repair; forging behavioral agreements; self-regulation and co-regulation strategies; structuring a relationship routine; emotional and physical intimacy; improving executive functioning; cultivating boundaries and differentiating rules; division of responsibility in the relationship & household; parenting practices; alexithymia, interoception & sensory challenges; norms for sharing marital resources; reciprocity & mutuality; Cassandra Phenomenon; and many others, as needed.
Abby has experience working with neurodiverse co-parents who need consultation for long-distance parenting, local but separate households, mediation, parenting plans, or discerning custody arrangements. Abby is familiar with many commonly co-occurring conditions associated with autism. Abby has worked with couples of all gender and sexuality pairings.